Well, hi there. It’s been a while, I know. I’m going to start with two apologies: firstly, to everyone who sent me such lovely messages after my last blog. I am sorry I haven’t responded individually but I think I may have gone a little early on talking about things and ended up heading into a low mood for a while. I also have this dreadful affliction whereby I am a writer, who wants to produce things that people read, but am also, intensely, an introvert and am terrified of attention. This means, every time I press publish I effectively run and hide under a duvet for a while. (Currently, this is actually true.)
The second apology I want to make is to those to who I promised I wouldn’t talk too much about my cancer. I think I am going to go back on this. Sorry. Why? Because, as mentioned briefly in my previous blog, this is actually happening to me, I can’t ignore it and it would seem disingenuous to write about my life and not include it. But, also, because I have had so many lovely people say that they do find it helpful and insightful.
I will, however, keep some of the more ‘intense’ details for a later piece of writing. I am considering a book. Quite frankly, this is my second time doing this so I may as well try and do something useful with it. I am keeping a diary of my more, raw and immediate thoughts and feelings, and to give a sneak peek, I have just written this:
It occurred to me yesterday, when I was at the hospital getting bloods done and looking around at the others there, that one of the reasons I hate the bald/turban etc look is that it makes us cancer patients look entirely homogenous. Especially as when our eyesight gets bad we have our glasses on too and due to the intense bloating, we all resort to comfortable clothes And now, with masks as well, there is even less of us to see as individual people. We end up as pink, shiny, bespectacled, baggy sameness. Eugh! I had hoped to style my way through it this time, but I am heading the inevitable way.
From this, you may well deduce that yes, it is the time of the hair disappearance. It has been more gradual this time but there has been significantly enough sloshing around the shower to make me realise – it was time! MOTH obliged with the hair clippers. I did cry. Of course I did. It took three years to grow my hair back to how I felt I wanted it. But, after the tears and with some Dave Brubeck playing we buzzed me down. As I was sitting on the office swivel chair dragged into the bathroom and with a towel draped round my neck, there was mention of MOTH holding the clippers still and me just twirling round in the chair. We didn’t do this but at least we had reached joking point.
So, to give a brief update. yesterday, I had number three of twelve weekly chemotherapies. It is a different treatment plan to last time so I am still getting used to how I am reacting. It is not fun. I am not having fun, but fun was not expected. But I have at least managed to get back to my positive mindset which eluded me for a while longer this time. So don’t worry, my blogs won’t be downbeat.
I am excitedly awaiting the delivery of some oversized loungewear today to accommodate the ballooning which happens as a by-product of some of the drugs. I have already purchased a cape-style coat (those close to me know how much I love a cape in all forms, I’m thinking I need a full on cloak next), however this was for practical reasons. I have had a picc line put into my arm as my veins are still too damaged from my last round of chemotherapies to have a cannula inserted on a weekly basis. (If you are squeamish, don’t look up picc lines. If you want gory details, do ask me 😉 ) But, I found that the bulk of the picc line and its dressings wouldn’t fit into the sleeves of any of my normal coats and with the weather now decidedly cold – I needed something. So a cape coat it was. It is yet another of the many, many extra things you don’t know you’ll need to think about when having cancer treatment, that clothing plays a larger part than you would imagine: hats, accommodating coats, baggy clothes (for when you can no longer do your trousers up), scarves, gloves to hold hand heaters in place before cannulation, eyebrow drawing on kits (we may need another full blog about me learning how to do make-up!), picc line covers, picc line shower covers… it’s an expensive business this cancer, add in parking and petrol for every appointment and, well, it’s best not to think about it.
But, regardless of all this I feel lucky. Lucky because I have MOTH the loveliest most supportive man on earth. I have an incredible family and the best of friends. I have you lovely lot, the cats of course and I am lucky because the NHS are simply more marvellous than I have words to express. I have also increased my cape collection.